This week is Thanksgiving. A time when we remember. A time to point out things in our lives that we are grateful for. A time to give thanks.
Many of the things we give thanks for are situations with family, friends, people. Activities we may have had or shared experiences that have touched us somehow. This time of year prompts us to think back, to reflect, and in reflection we respond with gratitude.
Each of us have certain things in our life that we hold on to. Things become markers in our lives. We keep them to remind ourselves.
Today I came in from church. I came in through the garage and as I headed into the kitchen from the mud room I saw a blue leash hanging from one of the coat hooks. I smiled to myself and took a breath, somehow arguing that is was now time to take that leash down. It has sat idle for a year now. Hanging there as a reminder. I won the argument with myself and the leash still hangs in its spot. It belongs there.
The leash is not the only marker I have in my home. For most of the year I have a little ornament that hangs on my pie server in my dining room. It’s a simple little ornament that says, “Friends are Forever”. Most of the time I don’t even see it, it has just become a part of my dining room decor. But, like the leash, it belongs there.
I have a mini Christmas stocking that looks like it has been through the wars. It hasn’t, it is just old. I got it the Christmas I was pregnant for the second time. It hung beside the stocking belonging to my daughter. It was full of hopes and dreams as I hung it in 1981. It was the stocking for the child we lost just a few short days after Christmas. A miscarriage, but somehow it was Tim’s stocking, the name we had picked out for that baby. It now hangs each year on our tree, another marker of mine.
I have photos on my refrigerator. They often times drive me to distraction because of the cluttered look they give my fridge, but each are markers for me. People dear to me and reminders to pray for those in the pictures.
The markers in our life are important. They become a landmark for the journey of our lives. Most of the time we don’t see them. They are there like stop signs and street signs. We see them, but they do not stop the activities of our daily routine. They do not cause us to cease our schedules to ponder them. They are just there.
Until, that is, we do stop to look at them or touch them, or consciously think about them. Today I thought about the leash. A melancholy smile came to my face. The leash that gave excitement to our Shugo. The leash that held him at stay whenever another dog was walking in the other direction. The leash that jingled when we went to the door and he would come running, tail wagging, and we waited for his house bark to go out for his walk. It will remain there, because it belongs there.
The ornament on my pie holder will remain there, because, it reminds me of my friend Dawn. My walking companion for years. I will keep it there to remind me of the times we spent circling Chollas Lake, laughing , talking, crying and making certain the squirrels did not get her. The strength we got from each other to get through her divorce, to get through my moving, to get through a rough day when walking was just not enough, but a piece of pie did help it just a bit more.
The mini stocking that makes me wonder who that child would be as an adult. But, also knowing that the child born after the miscarriage has given me so many wonderful gifts that I can’t begin to write that all down. A reminder that plans don’t always go the way you think, but our God is bigger and His way will give healing to broken hearts and bring us unexpected joys.
The pictures on the fridge, are a testament of a life surrounded by people who have touched your life, some family, some neighbors, but all loved.
Markers are things we hold onto. As I head into this Thanksgiving week I am grateful for much, but, I think that in this moment, right now, I am thankful for the markers in my life, for they anchor me to where I have been. They are a foundation in my memory. They stir my heart with recognition of a happy, full, and rewarding life.
What are some of the markers in your life? I’d like to hear about them if you would like to share them. Happy Thanksgiving to you all, thank you for stopping by. Cathi (DAF)