I went to kindergarten in the morning. I had a friend who lived across the street somewhat, it’s an intersection where there are actually a couple of streets merging off of one. Anyhow, I really liked this girl and her name also was Kathy. I remember one day another girl came to play with my friend Kathy. She had red hair. She went to afternoon kindergarten. She was playing with my friend Kathy. I immediately did not like her. She was crowding in on my friend territory. Her name? Kathy.
Fast forward through eight years of elementary school and this red-headed Kathy was at all of my birthday parties and I was at hers. We were friends. The other Kathy? I really have lost touch with her and don’t actually know where she is…
But, this third Kathy, this red-headed girl has become my forever friend. We grew closer during high school. I was at her house all the time. We spent nights together, talking until three or four in the morning. She introduced me to my husband, I was there when she tripped and actually fell into the lap of her future husband, smashing an ice cream cone into his face. Yes, I was that friend who sat and laughed uncontrollably while that happened. It was classic!
I just went online to read the definition of forever friend. I read articles of how you know when you find a forever friend. I didn’t need to read any of it. The definition of a forever friend? Kathy.
C.S. Lewis (one of my favorite writers) once said, “A friend is someone who knows the song in your heart and can sing it back to you when you have forgotten the words. ” This is my friend.
We have gone long times when we haven’t spoken. We have had a distance between us. We have been like sisters at times when we have argued and stayed mad at one another. But, then, that melody drifts into our hearts and we know that we need to reach out to one another. We need to have that time of restoration. To hear one another, and to listen to each other. Those words that remind us of who we are. That melody in our hearts that were sung as children and teens, and kept us sane as young mothers. That harmony that now eases us into our ‘senior years’. The song that started out as a light melody has now become an orchestral piece, rich with all the sounds of the instruments. The deep bass of the hard and difficult times we have seen one another through, the piccolo of the happy times, the weddings and the births of grandchildren. Those calming woodwinds that echo with memories of times spent together. Each movement conveying notes we carry in our hearts for one another.
Friends are truly a gift from our God. I have been blessed with many friends. I am honored when someone befriends me and I often wonder why they would. The friendship with Kathy has been grown over time. I often see a reflection of God in her. Her faith, her giving heart, her determination, her drive, challenges me and at the same time amazes me. There are very few people who I can be truly and honestly myself with. I am grateful that Kathy allows me to be me, bumps, bruises, frustration, anger, tears, laughter, all of who I am, I can be. She will listen and then, with ever so much grace she will point me the Lord and the direction I need to go.
In the Message Bible, Proverbs 17:17 says, “Friends love through all kinds of weather,
and families stick together in all kinds of trouble.”
I am so grateful to God for the gift of that red-headed girl I met so many, many, many years ago. I hope you have had the blessing of a forever friend. Thanks for stopping by, Cathi (DAF)