One of the definitions of control is to have power over. I once heard control described as a reasonable response to unreasonable pain. I have lived with control before. It is a hard life to live with, it brings out the very worst in me. I react strongly when faced with control issues.
We each have issues with wanting to control areas of our lives. I know I have controlled and have tried to be controlled. When I am trying to control something the result is I am angry all the time over everything. I try to recognize that quickly and ask forgiveness for it as soon as I can. When I am trying to be controlled, I react strongly. I stand my ground and I won’t budge. I set my jaw and I look at the person who is trying to control me and I verbally resist. It is not unlike a temper tantrum.
I have been pondering the subject of control. I know it is something that has run its course in our family. But, issues get dealt with and circumstances get resolved and life goes on.
The thing is, though, when control rears its ugly head, the only positive response is to act with grace and/or mercy.
Grace, as I have learned through years in church and in reading my Bible is unmerited favor from God. Grace is new every morning, which is a wonderful gift that I am grateful for. Another definition of grace is this, a temporary exception .
Hand in hand with grace is another concept, mercy. Mercy is also mentioned often in the Bible and again, for God’s mercy, I am very grateful. Mercy has this definition, a compassionate treatment of those in distress.
My thoughts today have had a ringside seat to the battle of grace and mercy versus control. It has gone many rounds in my mind and I have seen so many views of this battle. Arguments have been made for every side. Reason can be made for each side. But, personally, I think control should be ousted from the ring altogether. Control can only bring harm and anger and disappointment.
It may not be easy to do, but, again, my opinion, is that we need to give grace and mercy a chance in our individual lives. We need to show grace and mercy to everyone. We need to give favor in little things, show grace in times that we want to control.
I have heard so much this past week that life is fleeting. Things happen and life changes or you begin to see the end of your life as you know it. How much more important is it to give reasons for joy in others. To give someone a reason to smile, a reason to laugh, a reason to celebrate little things. As I have grown older, I realize that too many of my memories are of the hard things. The tears, the disappointments, the what could have been if only I had done things differently.
I now see that grace and mercy are the things I should always carry in my hands. They are the things I need to reach out with. They are the things I should lead with. They are the foundation for wonderful memories.
These are my mind ramblings today. It may be the result of a cloudy day, or a week with not as much sleep as needed, but here you have it. I close with Proverbs 17:22 (Amplified Bible) A happy heart is good medicine and a joyful mind causes healing,
But a broken spirit dries up the bones.
Thank you for stopping by today. Cathi