School is starting up again. Some of the kids returned to school this past week, some will go back on Monday. The schools in the area have been busy with lawns being mowed and more cars in the parking lots and signs signaling the beginning of the school year. I know that in several of those classrooms there will be an assignment for the students to write about what they did over their summer vacation.
With this in mind, I have decided to write about my summer vacation(?). This summer did not turn out the way I had imagined it. But, that is okay.
It’s not so much what I did over the summer that I am thinking about, it is what I learned over the summer.
I have learned that hoses do leak. Sometimes they erupt sending a deluge of water all over. I have learned not to wear my glasses when working on hoses because I end up not only being drenched, but also not being able to see since my glasses are dripping water and not providing me a way to see which way to go dripping wet.
I have learned that maintaining a pool is a daily thing. I was so used to seeing hubby out there doing ‘something’ and me getting changed to go into the pool and lounge. I have learned that the lounging only comes after the cleaning, backwashing, checking the chemical levels, adding what is needed, straining the basket in the filter (my least favorite part) and trying not to squeal like a girl when I see dead toads in the filter, bloated and looking up at me… Ewww….
I have learned that wasps are mean. I don’t react well to bee stings. But, it has been years since I have been stung. I forgot how they feel. I forgot how they itch and itch and swell. I forgot that the swelling stays for weeks, not days for me. Stupid wasps. They tricked me into a false sense of security and feeling victorious trimming bushes, except that last one… it is still wild and going off in all directions.
I also realized that even though my body aches and my legs ache and my back is rebelling, that things can get done. I have found that either praying or listening to hubby with his armchair quarterback instructions that things can be done. Also, there are those times when I scream aloud at myself and even let loose with a few words that don’t necessarily edify anyone or anything, that helps too.
Yes, I have learned much this summer. Some things I thought I already knew, but sometimes you need a refresher course. Neighbors help and turn into friends. I knew this, but, I was reminded in so many ways of this during the past few weeks.
I have had people tell me to not do so much. To let things slide a bit. I considered what they meant, but in the end, chose not to listen. This spring hubby did a lot of preparation for the summer. He worked hard and had plans. I could not, and decided would not, let his plans be ruined.
Did I do the gardening exactly like him? NO. I know under his care the garden would have produced so much more. But, we did get some nice cucumbers and tomatoes and squash. He had fresh beans for lunch and we had some rhubarb pie. I look at the garden and sigh most days. This is the one area where I feel like I could not do everything. I have watered, and fed the garden, but, alas, it was not a huge success. I know that although I love the produce, I think I am better suited to roses.
Did I get all his plans done? No, I didn’t. But, I tried. I tried because it was important to me for him to at least know that some things were getting done.
The biggest lesson learned? I still don’t know. I am sure that this time next year I can look back and see the end results of this summer, but, it’s still not done. The light is at the end of the tunnel. He is up and walking, but, with only being able to bend his leg 30 degrees, we have a way to go.
This, I do know, though, I love my husband. I may not be Florence Nightingale, but I try. I try because he deserves this. It was not his choice to sit all summer long, but, it happened. There is a reason for it all. So, although I have cracked jokes about it, I am so thankful that I could be here for him.
What are some of the lessons you learned over the summer? I would love to hear them. DAF (Cathi)